Your loved one is suffering from a condition that prevents their ability to carry out normal activities such as Parkinson’s or mobility issues, and you need to have the awkward conversation about getting some help.
This is never an
easy discussion. No one wants to feel that they need help, especially when they are
young. Your loved one will inevitably feel that they are a burden, and that you are
trying to pass them off to a carer. They may resist it completely or at least, have their
doubts about whether it is right for them. It is not an easy discussion, but one that is
essential. These are some ways you can discuss Homecare with your loved one and
make it as easy a process as possible.
Open and Honest Communication
It is important to be as open and honest with your loved one as possible. Explain to
them why you think they may need the care services, and don’t hold back with a
difficult conversation. They may be in deniable about their condition, especially if it is
progressive, but it is important that they feel that they are part of the decision. The
worst thing you can do is fail to involve them, and then suddenly bring a carer to their
door. Even if it’s a difficult decision, you still need to communicate openly with your
loved one.
The Right Time and Place
It is not appropriate to blurt out to your loved one that they might need some care
support in a room full of other people. It may make them feel embarrassed. It is also
important to be careful about when you break the news to them. If you do this when
they are in the midst of a particularly challenging time in their illness, they are more
likely to overreact. Instead, choose a time and place carefully. There will never be a
‘perfect’ time, but make sure you pick one that is most sensitive to discuss it. For
instance, when they are relaxed in their home. Only a couple of close family need to
discuss it, as otherwise they may feel they are being ganged up on.
Discuss the Benefits
The natural reaction to being told you need a carer may be one of dismay and anger,
but before this happens, try to discuss the benefits with them. There are many
benefits to getting a carer, such as having someone to talk to and share feelings
with, someone to take them shopping or to enjoy other activities, and also to keep
them safe. They may not fully understand all the benefits it could bring, and this may
help them feel reassured about the decision.
Talk about the Alternatives
Make sure your loved one understands the reasons why they may need the care but
also, the alternatives if they don’t get the care services at home. For instance, they
may end up having to go into a hospital. This is not to be doom and gloom to them,
but just to ensure they are aware of exactly why you have decided on this course of
action.
Give them Time
Don’t expect your loved one to be happy about it straight away, give them time to
consider it and then speak to them again. Ultimately, it is their decision, unless there
really is no alternative. For example, if they have dementia, there might not be any
other option. Don’t rush them into agreeing, give them space and let them work it out
in their own time.
If you would like to discuss the care services at home that we offer, you can contact us
by telephone or email, and we will arrange to meet up for a
chat and to carry out an assessment.